Baseball player Earl Wilson, the first black pitcher for the Boston Red Sox, quipped, “Experience enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.” Let’s face it: we’re going to make mistakes. Too much happens to us in life for us to be able to understand all of it. Our experience overwhelms our understanding. And no matter how smart we are, our understanding will never catch up with our experience.
So what is a person to do? Make the most of what we can understand. Some people do that in two ways. First, at the end of each day they try to remember to ask themselves, “What did I learn today?” That prompts me to “review the page” of my notebook for the day. The second thing they do is take the last week of every year to spend time reviewing the previous twelve months. They reflect on their experiences—successes and failures, goals accomplished and dreams unmet, the relationships that built and the ones that lost. In this way, you will be able try to help close some of the gap between what is experience and what is understand.
Our Attitude Toward Unplanned and Unpleasant Experiences- Determines Our Growth
Steve Penny, head of the S4 Leadership Network in Australia, observed “Life is full of unforeseen detours. Circumstances happen which seem to completely cut across our plans. Learn to turn your detours into delights. Treat them as special excursions and learning tours. Don’t fight them or you will never learn their purpose. Enjoy the moments and pretty soon you will be back on track again, probably wiser and stronger because of your little detour.”
Having a positive attitude about life’s detours is a constantly important to everyone. However when you found out that yourself is traveling on a detour, looking for the quickest way out—not trying to enjoy the process. Achieving people is their beacuase they have perception of and response to failure. Just because there is something true and at working environment practice don’t mean it‘s easy.
In really life story, there actually be story whereby in 2005 my friends, John was diagnosed with HIV. For one year I walked beside him and fright with him through the uneven experiences created by this disease. In any given week, he would hope and be afraid, ask questions and find answers, have setbacks and possibilities. He endured a lot of ups and downs.
This experience was unexpected for Rick because he was still a young man—only in his forties. Throughout his ordeal I watched him live one day at a time, appreciate each moment, see the silver lining in the clouds, love his friends, and spend time with his God.
More than once he said to me, “Lea, I would not have chosen this for my life, but I also wouldn’t trade this for anything.” John’s detour ended in his death in 2009. It was heartbreaking. But John taught me and everyone else around him a lot during this difficult season. By watching him, we learned about how to live.